20 Useful Tips When Getting Divorced

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There are few, if any, who stand at the back of the church and think, “well, if it doesn’t work out, we’ll get divorced!” There is painstaking care taken with every detail of the wedding day from the dress, transportation, wine choice, cake preference, first song, to the exit outfit of the bride.

Couples end up years later searching the internet for when it’s time to call it quits. Then it’s how to choose an attorney? Maybe find a mediator and not spend the kids’ college savings on the divorce! What’s better: a shark or a thoughtful, calm attorney? How do you trust the process when the person who promised to love and honor you ‘til death do you part is no longer willing to complete the voyage?

And that begs the question…when did the marriage turn to seeking divorce advice?

As separation and ultimately divorce unfolds, people are frightened by the uncertainty that lies ahead. This wasn’t the crystal ball viewed years earlier as the bride stood at the back of the church on the arm of her father looking ahead to her husband and their promising future.

As much as some would prefer the fast track to get it over with, it’s advisable to embrace the process as it unfolds:

  1. Approach this change as strategically as you would any significant life transition
  2. Take it one day at a time
  3. Make a plan and then review your plan
  4. Plan B – probably better – emerges
  5. Build a team of trusted experts – an attorney is one of them!
  6. Know your situation and not what you thought it was or should be
  7. Become an EXPERT of your case!
  8. Recognize when you’ve had a victory and celebrate accordingly
  9. Take care of yourself
  10. Be selfish when necessary
  11. Take a stand! And as important, know when to back down!
  12. Know your opposition
  13. Learn how to negotiate – take a class!
  14. Practice everything!
  15. Prepare agendas
  16. Document meetings
  17. Communicate with your attorney when you need LEGAL advice
  18. Maintain control
  19. Acknowledge your blessings
  20. Know that it will end – and then the future is yours

And it doesn’t look like the scene you envisioned in the crystal ball! Now peek into the future – 3 years, 5 years, 10 years! Tell us about your new life!

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About Sheila Brennan

There are few events in one’s life that impact you financially, socially, emotionally and legally. Effective communication and negotiation skills are imperative to a good outcome. Sheila Brennan, Divorce Coach, serves as your guide and advocate through the divorce process. Take complete ownership - this is your divorce! www.brennandivorcecoach.com

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