According to Malcom Gladwell’s book with the same title, “The Tipping Point is that magic moment when an idea, trend, or social behavior crosses a threshold, tips, and spreads like wildfire.” I often ask clients what was their tipping point that ended their marriage and each answer is unique.
- “I decided I’d had enough when I arrived at the house and found a woman’s shoe in my bedroom.”
- “I walked 4.8 miles home in the dark because I decided there was no way I could spend another evening having dinner with him.”
- “When I knew he was coming home from rehab and I didn’t dare jeopardize the ‘safe house’ I had created in his absence.”
- “When I found the letter in his briefcase from his girlfriend and she referred to me as ‘the lunatic wife’.”
- “When I finally decided that three strikes were enough and I wasn’t moving back in. It seems to work well in baseball.”
- “I knew when I had coffee with him and he reiterated that he hadn’t loved me in 8 years.”
- “I decided that my husband and his mistress were void of shame when she spent most of the evening by his side at an office function. I was tired of having my nose rubbed in it.”
- “When my husband went MIA for 6 hours while he was out of town for business, I knew that he was not deep in negotiations.”
- “I finally knew when his girlfriend’s husband called to tell me they were having dinner together.”
- “He told me that the affair that ended 5 years ago had, in fact, not ended.”
- “I found myself marking the bottles in the liquor cabinet and decided that I didn’t want to spend my golden years with an alcoholic.”
Most marriages don’t end on the amicable note that we’re lead to believe. There’s a tipping point that’s experienced by one or both parties. A tipping point often spreads like wildfire.
It’s recommended that your divorce not start out like wildfire. Even though you experience a tipping point to mark the end of your marriage, be thoughtful on your approach. Leave the great ideas to spread like wildfire.